Well, we all remember the movie “When Harry met Sally” where Harry said that men and women can never become “close” friends and at one point or the other one will fall for him/her - and it turned out to be true for him. But away from movies and the real world how much truth is there in what he said?Also the popular TV hit show “Friends” has also kept the issue alive. The social network has long been fascinated with this question, to which everyone claims to have an answer. The idea itself has always been appealing but questionable.
Ok, some people may have differing conceptions on this. But what I have written is utterly my opinion and any comments or feedback is more than welcome on this.
So here is a tricky one for all you guys – How many of you can boast that your BESTEST of best friend is in the female form (assuming you are permanently straight…no offence to other oriented beings)? Be honest and raise your hands J
If you do then just rehash the extent of closeness in it!!
If you look deep into the fact as to what is the root behind this notion, you will come up with various reasons. Is it because the guys just tend to take up the friendship having in mind as “Friend”? Beats me!!
Obviously it entirely depends upon the situation. Yes the friendship can blossom and people of opposite gender can connect and become close friends without culminating in ……you know!!
I agree, the complex cords that bind human to human can be as strong as steel yet as brittle as soda crackers!!
Many a times it’s not easy as it is but it does exist. It entirely depends upon the level of maturity between them. There is a personal space surrounding each one of them to which both mutually prohibits each other from crossing.
In other words “Attitude” is key to successful friendship!!
While there are plenty of horror stories out there, when honesty and mutual respect are present, sticky situations among friends can be worked out and be very rewarding.
The benefit which you can reap from this is that you get a quality advice from each other in all aspects of life which you might not get from your similar gender friends.
Some gals find that most loyal, fun loving and easy-going are guy friends, on the other hand some guys find that female friends give them perspective, add a certain calmness in their lives and are good information resource when it comes on understanding them.:-)
The answer to the longstanding question of whether a man and woman can ever be “just friends” is, rather unsatisfactorily, “it depends.” Second only to honesty, a friendship between the sexes comes to depend on its boundaries.
The fragile divide that separates friends and lovers can be pushed back, tip-toed over and even erased completely, yet whatever form the line comes to take in a platonic friendship, for the friendship to last, and for the sake of safeguarding feelings, it is one which we must tread very carefully.
So I ‘ll leave you all with this quote from Charles Colton
"True friendship is like sound health; the value of it is seldom known until it be lost"
